singleness is not a disease.
If you know me well, you know I’ve been in a few weddings. And by few I mean that I could make my own version of “27 Dresses.” Friends love to say “always a groomsman, never the groom.” All of my best friends are either married, engaged or seriously dating someone. So naturally everyone believes I should be, too. I mean think about it…. You are supposed to meet your wife in college and get married shortly after graduation, right? “The rest of your life”begins once you have a job and get hitched. Well this mindset is the reason for my frustration…When did Christ stop being enough? Doesn’t my life belong to Him whether I’m single or married? When I stop finding my self-worth and fulfillment in Him, I have aserious problem.
Don’t misunderstand what I’m saying. Irejoice whenever friends get engaged or married and I’m truly honored to be a part of their big day. I, too, desire to one day be married and have children. But who says that has to be now? Or that I’ve missed my “window of opportunity” by finishing college and still being single?
Honestly, there are days I’ve wondered why I haven’t found someone I want to spend the rest of my life with. I’ve found myself living like I’m waiting for someone to arrive. Society (even Christian society)treats singleness as the waiting room for marriage. And that mindset has trickled down to me.
But that isn't how I should think. And neither should you. When did singleness become a disease that needs a cure?
People told me “Caleb, you’re gonna move to Houston and find your wife!”Many of those same people are shocked that I’ve been in Texas for a year now and I’m still single. I didn’t move to Houston to find a wife. I moved to Houston to servethe Lord of my life. If I find a wife in the process, great. If not, great.
Whether I’m single for another week or for the rest of my life, I will treat it as a gift. I plan to wake up every day excited to spend it with my Creator. What else do I need?
When did Christ stop being enough? Doesn’t my life belong to Him whether I’m single or married? When I stop finding my self-worth and fulfillment in Him, I have aserious problem.
Don’t misunderstand what I’m saying. Irejoice whenever friends get engaged or married and I’m truly honored to be a part of their big day. I, too, desire to one day be married and have children. But who says that has to be now? Or that I’ve missed my “window of opportunity” by finishing college and still being single?
Honestly, there are days I’ve wondered why I haven’t found someone I want to spend the rest of my life with. I’ve found myself living like I’m waiting for someone to arrive. Society (even Christian society)treats singleness as the waiting room for marriage. And that mindset has trickled down to me.
But that isn't how I should think. And neither should you. When did singleness become a disease that needs a cure?
People told me “Marcus, you’re gonna move to Houston and find your wife!”Many of those same people are shocked that I’ve been in Texas for a year now and I’m still single. I didn’t move to Houston to find a wife. I moved to Houston to servethe Lord of my life. If I find a wife in the process, great. If not, great.
Whether I’m single for another week or for the rest of my life, I will treat it as a gift. I plan to wake up every day excited to spend it with my Creator. What else do I need?
It comforts me to read this...a lot. To know that I'm not stuck alone in this boat. I have a lot of single friends-but they are all girls that I talk about the hardness of singlehood. I love hearing what this guy had to say. I love that I know he is quality and not a weirdo. It gives me so much hope. (But not make me want to fall in love with him)
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