Thoughts on Lovelogy

Well, after a full month I finally finished "Loveology" by John Mark Comer. I loved it a lot, it was a great book. It's a book where you need to read all the footnotes because they are hilarious. Its a book that makes you think and analyze all the things you thing about LOVE and see if you think that for any good reason.

As I was reading the very last few pages I was consumed with thoughts of what I have learned in reading this book. What are the things that I will take away and let shape my life. This whole book was amazing, but the few pages on submit and love were my favorite and shaped my mindset around it, however, I already wrote a blog on these pages, so I need to choose a second favorite (life shaping) part to reflect on.

After much thought, my answer goes to the beginning of  the book the section where John Mark goes over the 4 reasons for marriage ( in Spanish numbering of course).
Uno: Friendship
Dos: Gardening
Tres: Sexuality
Cuatro: Family

Number 2 (or Dos if you following the book's numbering) has stuck out to me the most. Gardening--to work together for a purpose. I know a couple that is OBSESSED with spending quality time together (Like they have a time clock and need to make sure they punch in enough hours a week) But they don't do anything with purpose, they just "need" that quality time together, and because they "need" this time together, he does a terrible job at his job because he is so consumed with having to put in his hours at home.

But imagine if that same couple gardened together. Everything would look so different. She would support him doing his job, and be an encouragement for him to do it right, she would even help him out during the busy season instead of nagging for him to be home more and convincing him on skipping out on his responsibilities.

I like thinking that a good marriage is so much more than two people staring at each other with twinkling eyes. We are no longer a agriculture center country where it was the norm for a family to work together on the farm for their income. But that now we may be going different directions and doing different things but we still need to have a focus on working and as a couple for a purpose.

I love this book so much! I hope you read it, I learned a lot from it. It has changed some of my viewpoints on love and marriage for sure.