Hallmark movies breakdown

In the late fall and Christmas season, I feel this need to watch those Hallmark movies. There are so many jokes about them-- and the jokes come because these movies are all the same. I am going to ruin them for you

Hallmark movie:
Scene one: Independent single girl and independent single guy have a positive first interaction but quickly come to hate each other

Scene two: Something happens that force the two people to spend lots of time together, typically at a work function or a family obligation, the hate brews among the two
Scene three: An ex comes into the picture. Jealously occurs, the two people who hate each other somehow need to help each other out because of the ex
Scene four: The two main characters have a change of heart towards each other, but alas, there situation changes.They are forced to be apart. They miss each other so much!!
Scene five: One of the two takes a brave move, at the airport (and we all wonder, how did they end up at the airport) and they fall deeply in love!
[Credits roll]
I hope you are laughing right now, and as you read this, you have 20-30 movie plots going on through your head, they are all the same. But I am not writing tonight just to tell you something that you already know or to complain about Hallmark movies (because I am a sucker for them all, I just watched "Love is on the air" this afternoon)  but to think about the stage of life where all these people start and end.

We start out with strong independent single people-- a stage of life where I am in, a stage of life where lots of people do not like to be in. Then the movie follows them to the stage of "true love" and cuts off. Hallmark movies NEVER show us what it looks like when once we are in a fully committed relationship. They only show the journey from singlehood to the committed relationship.

Isn't that interesting? When it comes to media, we are all about the journey. We don't show (or care) what it looks like when the "journey" is over.

Why is that?

Really, why is that?

There are so many different stages of our lives. Yet we show this very short timeline over and over again.

Falling in love is exciting, it new, its scary, it has two people coming together who are unsure if they REALLY want to be together forever, it plays with our emotions, we feel lots of different emotions in the process: hate, love, jealous, insecurity, happy, sad, fluttery. We consult and involve lots of people into our lives when love is on the horizon. We see our lives going in a brand new direction because of these feelings.

But more, it shows us our secret desires of who we want to be. We see ourselves in these characters are slowly falling in love. As single people, we try to be really ditsy, so we can "fall" into the stranger's arms of the person we are about to fall in love with, as married people, we dream of having an more ideal relationship with our spouse, one as complex and excited as we see in these romance movies.

I think there is more to our obsession to hallmark romance movies than I have mentioned, but I really do not know what it is.

It's strange to me, how we obsessive on watching people on their journey to find happiness, but once they have it, we don't want to see it. Its like we as watcher's become jealous and just need those credits to roll so we can move on... So we can become excited about starting a journey to be happy like those movie characters.